According to one dictionary, the word “communication” is defined as…

“the exchange of information between people, e.g. by means of speaking, writing, or using a common system of signs or behavior”

The word “authentic” has been defined as…

    “genuine or true”

 

It is often said that communication is the number one key to successful relationships; however, most of us were never taught how to authentically and effectively communicate in a way that meets everyone’s needs. Instead, we have learned how to play games, manipulate one another and tell little “white lies” to get what we want.  We have also learned that it isn’t always safe to tell the truth and telling the truth can upset people and lead to conflict. 

Since many people avoid conflict at all cost, it is understandable that communicating authentically, or sharing your true or genuine thoughts and feelings with others doesn’t always happen.  As a result, you may end up repressing your true feelings which often leads to frustration, upset, resentment and the break down of relationships.

Another reason some people play games is to avoid taking responsibility.  If taking responsibility for something would potentially make us “look bad” some of us would rather choose not to communicate authentically.

What about the need to be right?  Have you ever heard the question, “Would you rather be right than happy?  Why is it that we will often hold on to and defend our position rather than look for an alternative solution that works for everyone?  Perhaps the reason for this is that we don’t know how?

Here are a couple of steps that you can take right away to help you get started in communicating more authentically with others and creating more successful and satisfying relationships.  The first step is to be honest and truthful with yourself.  What do you really want?  What do you think is preventing you from getting your needs met? What are you afraid of? 

Once you are clear about your needs, goals and desires, it is important for you to feel confident in your ability to express yourself authentically in both your personal and professional relationships.  One way to build your confidence is to learn how you can share your truth with others in a way that is less likely to result in a conflict.  You can also learn communication strategies that will support you in effectively dealing with conflict when it does occur.
 
In addition to various resources that are available on the topic of communication and conflict resolution, you may also want to consider working with a coach who can support you step by step as you work toward enhancing the quality of all your relationships.

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate. The ability to create and/or maintain positive and effective business relationships requires extra effort. For example each member in a group or organization, has a different set of skills and beliefs based on their past experiences. This has a direct impact on the expectations they have regarding how they feel other members of the group “should” fulfill their individual roles and function as a team.

An ineffective group or organization not only results in frustration, it can also have a negative effect on results and productivity. The well being of each individual depends on how positively and effectively the group or organization works as a team. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members feel and interact with the management.

Business relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown when individuals feel they have no life outside the walls of the area where they work or feel they must sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines.

All companies are comprised of a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work together and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having relationships that are positive, where cooperation and respect are demonstrated, can make companies more successful. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with positive and effective relationships.
 
Understanding the other parties’ feelings and position creates a positive and effective relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say without any judgment. When the other party feels heard and validated, they will be more open to listening and considering others’ points of view.

When parties fail to express their feelings or whatever is on their mind this often leads to resentment and conflict. An atmosphere where parties feel safe to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters will produce more favourable results.

Relationships are important to everyone and learning how to communicate authentically is the number one key to developing positive and effective business relationships.